Episode #54 - Don’t Get Derailed By Old Patterns

Episode #54 Don’t Get Derailed By Old Patterns

About: Breaking up old patterns that are not serving us!

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Remember from Episode #53 - We all have had challenges in our past, and that makes us want changes in our own lives. Big Changes = Big Results! 

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TRANSCRIPTION
Ben has unlocked the secrets of understanding how our minds control our
business and daily lives. Inside each episode Ben shares his proven
actionable items, tips and secrets to managing the supercomputer between your
ears so you can build and develop your business and start living the life you
desire and deserve. This is Practical Psychology for Business with Benjamin
Halpern! Hi a great morning and welcome to today's podcast! So, we have resolutions.
We have commitments. We have goals. We have dreams. We have aspirations. We have
them clear, we visualize them, we put dates on them, you know it's there. It's
setup. It's fine, and when it comes time for rubber to hit
the road, we get into our offers and we want to do it. It feels like - we're back!
You know, we make our New Year's resolutions and it seems like we're back
to last year. All those old patterns. Those
distractions. Those challenges hit us back in the face and we think uh oh we're
back to last year but it's not the truth. What these are is old patterns. You see,
things in life, good after bad, become patterns. People that run into good happy
patterns, people that run into action patterns, people that run into positive
patterns wind up...they're there for them at all times.
People that run into negative patterns and we all have a lot of both but when
we have a negative pattern associated with our work, it's just that was our
performance for last year, before our new goals resolutions and commitments! And
you know playing at that level had certain patterns in place as to why
we played at that level. Certain distraction patterns. Certain avoidance
patterns that we had in place which kept us at our last year's success but if we
want to move ahead we have to realize the first step is, of course, commitment
and visualization and being you know committed a hundred percent in our
hearts to make happen but just because we have that
doesn't wipe out wipe out the old patterns. The old patterns are here
because they were there, but we will wipe them out. We won't feed them anymore. We
won't use them anymore and they're gonna die of starvation and I'm happy to walk
you through in the future podcasts how to be able to do that in a quicker way
but for now you need to roll up your sleeves and live as if they are not
there. You gotta mow pass them. It's not gonna
be there every single day that you're gonna have to fight them. They're gonna
go away. They're gonna die of starvation. That's how patterns work. The more we use
them, the more strong, powerful they become. The more they affect us the more
they exist in our lives. The less we use them you know it's the
old adage - if you don't use it, you lose it! If we don't use a limb within a
couple of months we're gonna be in therapy to learn how to use it again. If you
don't use it you lose it. It's the same thing with patterns. So we stop using
patterns, we're gonna lose it. We have new goals, we have new dreams, we have new
plans and we follow through so automatically we get into action - serious
action - doing things, following through... then the pattern that we will stop to
use will die out but I urge you to have a new pattern of action! In other words, a
pattern of how many calls you're gonna make today or how many touches
you're gonna make today in sales. Have really a plan in front of you that's
strong enough and compelling enough that could rip through and push you ahead
through all the distractions at least for today. You got to do it for four or
five days and boom! If you don't use it you lose it - they're gonna die but it
takes a little bit energy and a little bit commitment and a little bit power...
That's the idea of making resolutions. Visualizing it. Seeing it. Tasting it.
Feeling it. That willpower that you're on that motivation - you don't got to do for
the rest of the year that motivation you need to get through the initial phase to
stop using those patterns. Stop distracting yourself during work.
Stop going to avoidance pattern. Stop giving yourself reasons why not to take
action of follow-through. Stop talking to people, going to get coffees and snacks
and meals and reorganizing your desk and listening to motivational content. Don't
do those avoidance behaviors, at least for the first week of the year so you
don't have to look at this as a goal for a million years but you got to look at it
the first week of the year. You need to not get derailed by old patterns.
Yes they're there. They're not there to stay. They're not hardwired however they
were fed so they have some power and they're in your life. They don't just go
away by themselves because you made a resolution but they will go away when
you stop feeding them. If you don't use them, you lose them. Stop using those
patterns and you're going to lose those patterns and once you lose those
patterns it will be that much easier for you to forge ahead to follow through do the
actions, do the new patterns, the new behaviors that you want to install for
the future year. They will be there for you. They will be the new patterns. They
will serve you for the rest of the year, for the rest of your life! Install good
patterns! They will go. That's the key of all successful people - great patterns
running - and now YOU've joined the ranks! For more information & for more help to
integrate these things into your life visit my website
www.benjaminhalpern.com